Not every friendship can be like Sherlock and Watson!
A good friend can bring great joy, comfort, solace, and fun to your life. Unfortunately, a bad friend can have the opposite effect, yielding increased vulnerability to all the signs that lead to stress, depression, anxiety, sadness, and the list goes on. Good friends are vital for your well-being, but if you don’t see a healthy reciprocation of your efforts and feelings, your friendship could be negative or even toxic.
A toxic friendship is like an oxymoron, if you start feeling like your best friend is no longer the best thing for you, chances are you’re in a toxic friendship.
Here’s a list of 5 signs of a toxic friendship:
They don’t prioritize you
Everyone is busy these days and has a million things to squeeze into 24 hours a day. But we make time and put our maximum effort to satisfy the people we truly care about. We prioritize our friends and family. Spending time with friends should increase your sense of connection. If a person never prioritizes you, it means that the person does not care about you. When your friend starts ignoring you and avoiding your calls or texts but doesn’t seem to have trouble investing time in everything else, it’s time for you to re-evaluate the friendship.
A toxic friend has a knack for spreading their toxicity to others. When you are with that person, they bring out traits in you that aren’t your best. You may feel like you can’t be your most real self when you are around them, you may feel lousy about yourself and feel destabilized around them most of the time. Even when you aren’t with them, you might spend a lot of time thinking back to your negative interactions, which can make you feel tense, irritable, and even downright awful.
Gossip and Criticism
When your friendship is purely based on gossip and hating on others, it’s doing no good for you. Gossip mongers make poor friends because they could very well be gossiping about you behind your back. It is also imperative to understand the difference between constructive criticism that a good friend always offers and putting one down something a bad friend will do without fail. So, if your friend is constantly making you feel bad about yourself, it’s time to cut those ties off.
They keep score
In toxic friendships, people hold grudges. Your friend will keep score of the number of times you’ve disappointed them and throw them all in your face when they do something to upset you. Rather than accepting and apologizing, they’ll start pointing fingers. Everyone makes mistakes but a toxic friend will never own up to it.
Your other relationships suffer
One toxic friendship can slowly but steadily begin to poison other close relationships. Seeing the negative circumstances, you start doubting everyone and might find it difficult to trust others. You lose confidence in yourself and wonder if everyone sees you as flawed, boring, unsupportive- leaving you further isolated and alone.